Some guys have dicks.
Some guys have pussies (although trans men might call their sweet spot by another name). A hand up the pussy can be a fulfilling pleasure, literally. Apart from the lovely sensation of a hand sliding up there, a hand can do wonders in terms of pressure and movement along the walls of the vagina. Safe, pleasurable fisting is enjoyed responsibly, with mutual awareness and respect of both the giver and the receiver. Fisting often gets better and even more enjoyable with experience.
Whether you are the one doing the fisting or receiving it, it’s incredibly important to be aware of both your own and the other person’s body. Respect your own boundaries and respect those of your partner(s). Pay attention to the sounds the other person is making. Listen to their words, their moans, their sounds, breath, and body language. Give yourself enough time for sex, to relax, to see what turns you on. Get the pussy accustomed to taking in bigger and bigger things.
Some people can comfortably get a whole hand up on the first try, while others will have to ease into it and be patient. A bit of tongue action and then some fingering are great ways to prime a pussy. You can start with one finger and gradually insert more, and maybe even fuck with a cock or a dildo. Remember to stimulate the clit from the outside as well to make it nicer before, during and after the fisting. Try to make your hand as flat as possible if the person is a beginner and insert it as far as it feels good – remember it’s not a competition. If it hurts or feels unpleasant, stop or slow things down.
The clitoris’ sensitive inner parts are reached from inside the vagina, so the stretching sensation that you get from fisting can make the experience particularly amazing. Once inside the pussy, explore the vaginal walls a bit – feel around, pressing and rotating your hand. Some find small, gentle movements best, while others prefer a rougher and harder touch. Maybe try clenching your fist carefully inside the pussy for a different feeling? Vaginas have a limited depth and if you travel the whole distance you’ll reach the end point- the cervix. Many people don’t like the feeling of a hand pushing on the cervix, so focus on playing with varying pressures along the vaginal walls rather than getting your hand up as deep as possible. Some people like getting anal stimulation during fisting or alternating between the two. Attention to hygiene is necessary if doing so, since there is bacteria in the rectum that can cause infections in the vagina or urethra. Discarding the glove and putting on a new one as you move from anus to vagina might be a way of handling this, or just reserving one hand for each hole throughout your session.
To make fisting safer and more pleasurable, it’s vital to use plenty of water or silicon-based lubrication. Some people find the vagina’s own lubrication enough on its own, while others prefer to use extra lube. Latex or plastic gloves can also glide things along. Gloves have the added benefit of reducing the risk of transmitting HIV, hepatitis B and hepatitis C, which in rare cases can be passed both ways via wounds inside the pussy or on the hand.
Internally, the vaginal skin is relatively thin and fragile though it is slightly more durable than the tissue in the anus, for example. To reduce the risk of injury, it’s important that the giver has short, well-filed nails and removes any rings and other jewellery that may scratch and tear.
Take care of yourself and your fisting friends!
